So, I think, at the tender age of 25 I am finished with having anymore children, I mean does it get any easier after 3?
From an early age I have always wanted children, i’m quite a maternal person and I knew I wanted to be a mummy one day. I didn’t plan to have 3 children as such, it just all seemed to fall into place.
Life with 3 children can be hard but before my youngest was born I was always broody. I LOVE being pregnant, the first tiny flutters into full blown rib kicks, the pregnancy glow, the pregnancy hair and the amazing feeling that you are growing a life inside of you. Oh and that extra attention you get (hehe)
I would see newborn babies and get a pang of jealousy, even though I already had 2 gorgeous children. Nothing would take the unbearable ache for another baby away, even holding tiny babies-hearing the horror stories of the birth, how tired their mummy was and how difficult the baby is. I still longed for, what I thought was, the missing piece to my puzzle.
Fast forward to now I am sitting here writing this post, eating my dinner, in peace and quiet. All 3 of my children are tucked up in their beds and I know they probably won’t wake up until the early hours. This however will be only for a quick cuddle and soothing kiss goodnight. I know in the morning they can feed themselves, well my 2 eldest, whilst I drink a hot cup of tea and then we can all snuggle watching a film or Cbeebies. That is until WW3 starts and my real day begins!
I never thought the constant broodiness would subside. Well I think it has…
How do you know when your family is complete?
Do you ever feel finished?
Or are you just in limbo?
I would absolutely love to hear your answers.
Lots of love
Charlotte
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Hey Charlotte, funny you say that…cause at the age of 29 and with 3 children myself I’ve always said after my last I didnt want anymore children…but…since getting into a new relationship I’ve found myself thinking about wanting another baby…it scares the life out of me but I dont know where these thoughts are coming from…I know only too well how difficult it can be having 3 children (all girls at that) but still it doesnt stop these thoughts…maybe its just a phase im going through but hey…who knows 😉
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Hi Kirsty,
You often hear of babies being born into a new family unit, it’s far from uncommon. So wanting to have a child with a person you love is completly natural so I can see where you are coming from. Good luck whatever you decide 😘
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I’m only just starting out, due with my first this year, so I can’t imagine how it would feel to feel ‘done’. It sounds like you’re in a nice content place right now so I’d say just enjoy it – you’re still so young so plenty of time for more if the feeling creeps back in! 🙂 #bestandworst
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Ah congratulations do you know what you are having? Yes I feel really content, which is such an achievement for me. I know I’m still quite young but I wouldn’t like to have another and have such a big age gap inbetween my children. I also wouldn’t want to go back to the baby stage in a few years when I am just getting my life back. These are a few more reasons why I feel finished, well hopefully…
Thank you for your lovely comment.
Xx
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All makes total sense, it would be a shock to the system if you had a big break then went back to sleepless nights! We don’t know what we’re having, I can wait to meet them though! Xx
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Ah good luck, I wish you all the best, i’ll be following your blog for your special arrival. xx
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Aw this is so lovely – I do feel a bit achy when I think of all the lovely emotions and experiences that you’ve described, but we knew that we were stopping at two and so the hubby has recently been for “the op”. We’re very lucky to have two happy, healthy (touching wood) children and it feels for us like our family is complete. That being said I was 34 and 36 when I had my two. If I was younger I might have thought differently and just given ourselves a 10 year or so gap before trying again 🙂 x #bestandworst
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Thank you, I honestly feel if I was a lot older I would 100% feel finished. I know it really is impossible to have anymore due to finances, the house and the car but sometimes I do think maybe…
xx
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I am totally finished! im 37 and have a 6 and a two year old. whilst i do get the odd pang when i see a tiny baby, I know my mental health and my bank balance couldn’t take anymore! #brillblogposts
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Hehe, what a fab response. I need my sensible head on like you to completely say no! xx
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I think it’s always tempting to have more once those dark (for me, anyway) days of tiny children are over… but I feel very lucky to have one of each, and they are both healthy. I am very impressed with anyone coping with three! #brillblogposts
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My dark days are the newborn stages, nowadays are my OMG what have I done stages (hehe)
I should of thought that to as I had one of each but something just felt missing before I had my youngest.
Thank you it’s tough. xx
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I would love a 3rd but I fear it opens up a whole new realm of parenting! Who knows when the broodiness really stops though eh. Thanks for linking up, hope you’ll stop by again! #bestandworst
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I didn’t think it would be as hard as what it is but…it really is. You need extra eyes,ears, hands and a whole lots more patience.
Xx
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